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Gentleman’s Ride Recap

Last Sunday was an unforgettable day riding through SF and across Golden Gate. We rode united to fight male suicide and prostate cancer and had a great time doing it.

Why I am asking for your support

Men are dying too young.

Prostate cancer kills more men than breast cancer in women.

I lost a male co-worker to suicide, which is the biggest killer of men aged 20-39.

This needs to change.

That’s why I have been partnering with these fine folks riding for a cause — the Distinguished Gentleman’s Ride — to raise funds that directly support the fight for men’s health worldwide.

Prostate cancer statistics

  • Prostate cancer is the most common cancer in men. It kills more men than breast cancer in women.
  • One in seven men will develop prostate cancer by the age of 75, and one in four men will be affected by the age of 85.
  • Close to 500,000 men will die from prostate cancer yearly.

Suicide prevention

  • Suicide is the biggest killer of men aged 20-39, with ¾ of all suicides being male.
  • 510,000 men die from Suicide each year, one every minute.

These numbers need to drastically change.

Personal fundraising goal reached

I have had a few fine folks give generously before the ride: $522.40 contributed for men’s health. Thank you. You have personally contributed in funding worldwide medical research to find a cure for prostate cancer, as well as aiding to improve men’s mental health.

$1.5M to go worldwide

Fundraising is still open until October 31. If you haven’t yet donated, please consider registering your support.

Curious about what programs your donation will support? In partnership with the Movember Foundation, funds are allocated to important prostate cancer research programs as well as men’s mental health and suicide prevention programs.

All fundraising has only been made possible through the generosity of people like you who have answered the call to make the world a better place. DGR has a goal of $5M and $3.4M have been raised so far. Help us get to the end!

Donate now.

San Francisco ride

The ride was pretty incredible. Over 350 people turned out. Together we raised $55,511.

This short video gives you a taste of what it’s like:

Having a blast on two wheels in San Francisco. ? Join us and support men's health. $522 raised as of today by my amazing supporters. Link in bio. Music by HOME.

After riding across the Golden Gate we stopped at Equator Coffee, where we all took some time to drink cold brew, recognize the top fundraisers, and even the best dressed gentleman and gentlelady along with best motorcycle. And, I took home an Iron & Resin t-shirt as a runner up for best beard. Tip of the hat to Riv at Paradox for keeping me looking sharp.

Yours truly on the 2017 Triumph Street Twin
Yours truly on the 2017 Triumph Street Twin

Thanks

Thanks for hearing me out! Stay dapper out there.

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Support male suicide prevention

Today is World Suicide Prevention Day. I lost a coworker to suicide a couple years ago. Half a million men will commit suicide this year.

Depression doesn’t discriminate. Guys, don’t “tough it out” in silence. Talk to somebody. You can always speak with somebody immediately at 1-800-273-TALK.

I am partnering with The Distinguished Gentleman’s Ride to support male suicide prevention. Please consider making a donation to support these efforts. Male suicide is a tragedy that must be prevented.

  • Suicide is the biggest killer of men aged 20-39, with ¾ of all suicides being male.
  • 510,000 men die from suicide each year, one every minute.

This video from the Movember Foundation is a powerful reminder to all men to talk to somebody when in a time of crisis. If you or someone you know is in crisis, check out these resources and start a much needed conversation today.

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New Heart, New Mind

I used to believe I’d be remembered for my work.

Not anymore.

Life is about relationships with people, not bits. What’s valued is availability, truly caring for those around you, and expecting nothing in return.

I’m being remembered for my love.

When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways.
1 Corinthians 13:11 ESV

A year ago, someone great told me: “Do not love efficiently.” 1

What a thought! As an engineer, efficiency comes hardwired.

Loving inefficiently means caring for people when it feels like a waste of time, when it’s with someone outside of “my set”, when it’s someone I don’t understand and honestly don’t want to understand.

I recall this advice in places I’d typically keep to myself. Places like airplanes, coffee shops, and urban sidewalks. Neighbors, baristas, and solicitors.

My selfishness abrades at these attempts. But what is our legacy without love? What else is more important?

If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.
1 Corinthians 13:3 ESV

These encounters are usually brief. Sometimes they’re awkward. But in engaging, I find myself challenged by the everyday opportunities to love others in this way:

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 ESV

This is hard. It can come easy, but it’s usually difficult. There are cycles of generosity followed by self-serving deceit.

I can’t love like this. These cycles reveal it: human nature is at odds with acting this way. We love for a day, then we fall short. We try not to envy, then find ourselves coveting. We are nice to people until we feel justified to retaliate. And how do we endure all things when we’re broken in the midst of disappointment?

Instead of making adjustments to what’s broken, my old self is being replaced.

1 Corinthians 13 describes the result of radical transformation.

This chapter of the Bible was written to show the fruits of a new life in Jesus, when we’re committed to Him as our Savior and have the Holy Spirit working within us.

There are days where I progress in love and days where I miss the mark.

I don’t understand everything about the Bible. I’m learning, but I don’t know it all. I will always be learning. But I know a few things for sure. I have admitted to myself and God that I can’t love like this alone. That I cannot be close to God merely by being a good person doing good things. That I believe God’s only son Jesus is the perfect sacrifice that allows God to transform our entire soul if we ask Him.

By this, I am accepted before I did anything to deserve acceptance. Adopted. Beloved. Out of this new identity, I am able to share this unconditional love with others. It’s the heart of Christianity.

“Teacher, which command in God’s Law is the most important?” Jesus said, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your passion and prayer and intelligence.’ This is the most important, the first on any list. But there is a second to set alongside it: ‘Love others as well as you love yourself.’ These two commands are pegs; everything in God’s Law and the Prophets hangs from them.”
Matthew 22:35-40 The Message

Old and New

This scene is full of people who compared how they used to live compared to who they are becoming in Jesus.

I’m a work in progress and frequently mess up. We all do. I desire a new heart, a new mind, seen dimly and in part.

By the act of trusting Jesus, I surrender everything to the process of transformation. Every day I’m becoming a new person that can love the way I’m designed to love.

Radically and inefficiently.

The happy man is he who lives the life of love, not for the honors it may bring, but for the life itself.
Raymond John Baughan (1946)

Finally, if you’d like to know more about what I started to share here, you’re invited to check out The Touch of God. It’s a video from my church about God’s love in a loud and busy world. Or maybe just visit a church near you. You can expect to find a bunch of folks who have been through some crap and are figuring this all out together. See you out there.

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The Joy of Doing

The secret of happiness is in knowing this: that we live by the law of expenditure. We find greatest joy, not in getting, but in expressing what we are. There are tides in the ocean of life, and what comes in depends on what goes out. The currents flow inward only where there is an outlet. Nature does not give to those who will not spend; her gifts are loaned to those who will use them. Empty your lungs and breathe. Run, climb, work, and laugh; the more you give out, the more you shall receive. Be exhausted, and you shall be fed. Men do not really live for honors or for pay; their gladness is not in the taking and holding, but in the doing, the striving, the building, the living. It is a higher joy to teach than to be taught. It is good to get justice, but better to do it; fun to have things, but more to make them. The happy man is he who lives the life of love, not for the honors it may bring, but for the life itself.
Raymond John Baughan, Undiscovered Country: Morning Thoughts to Brace the Spirit of the Common Man, 1946. Via.

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“Sorry, your coffee isn’t an artisanal ritual.”

Marco Arment writes about coffee lovers who look down upon Keurig K-Cups:

We’re the ones who keep creating, replacing, Kickstarting, and spending top dollar on ever-more-specialized equipment, even when it differs from established products only in arbitrary or purely decorative ways that have no discernable effect on the actual coffee (except maybe prolonging the process of making it).

We’re the ones who obsess over every little detail of brewing technique as if they matter much more than they really do, making good coffee ever more alienating and confusing to casual coffee drinkers who don’t have time to study and fuss over it as much as we do. […]

Maybe we’d get some of the Keurig fans to use our methods if we weren’t so pretentious, wasteful, expensive, and inaccessible ourselves. […]

Our obsession with gear and “rituals” is only distracting them — and us — from the real problem: old, mediocre, or badly roasted beans.

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The Invention of the AeroPress

Zachary Crockett at Priceonomics brings us the story of Alen Alder’s company Aerobie and how a toy manufacturer started making coffee makers.

The AeroPress was conceived at Alan Adler’s dinner table. The company was having a team meal, when the wife of Aerobie’s sales manager posed a question: “What do you guys do when you just want one cup of coffee?”

A long-time coffee enthusiast and self-proclaimed “one cup kinda guy,” Adler had wondered this many times himself. He’d grown increasingly frustrated with his coffee maker, which yielded 6-8 cups per brew. In typical Adler fashion, he didn’t let the problem bother him long: he set out to invent a better way to brew single cup of coffee.

I love my AeroPress. It really does make a great cup.

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Placebo-philes

Robert McGinley Myers:

For me it started with a simple search for better headphones. I think I typed “best headphones under $50” into Google, and what came back was a series of lists, like this one or this one, ranking the best headphones at a series of price ranges. I settled on a pair pretty quickly, and when they arrived I loved them, but those lists had planted their hooks in my brain. How much better would my music sound if I were willing to spend just a little bit more?

A fantastic read on the placebo effect on everything from sound gear to wine to alternative medicine. Via Marco.org, who wrote this week about his own search for better coffee and headphones.

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“Mr. Market”

Warren Buffet, from his Letter to Shareholders, 1987 Berkshire Hathaway Annual Report:

Ben Graham, my friend and teacher, long ago described the mental attitude toward market fluctuations that I believe to be most conducive to investment success. He said that you should imagine market quotations as coming from a remarkably accommodating fellow named Mr. Market who is your partner in a private business. Without fail, Mr. Market appears daily and names a price at which he will either buy your interest or sell you his.

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